On Not Enough

Ok. So I think, in the middle of my second West Wing rerun this morning, I've just felt an "aha" thought shoot its way into my ear and take a seat somewhere in the cognitive portion of my brain. "Aha!" I watch tv from time to time (sometimes more than others) to anesthetize myself and escape. That's a fact. But why, when I watch West Wing reruns - which I started to do during the final weeks of the election - do I feel not so much a sinking into short term oblivion, but instead, a rising of some kind of need. Aha! I just watched C.J. Craig sitting there in front of the tv monitor with Josh Lyman (the Rahm Emannuel clone, I've just learned - talk about another aha! - sure - should have known - but that's another topic). Anyhow, they were sitting there, watching Jed Bartlet (my very favorite President in my dream world -at least, he was until Barack Obama came along - and he may very well take Jed Bartlet's place). And, as I was saying, Jed Bartlet is rehearsing for the State of the Union, and he doesn't look well, and C.J. is fondling and sometimes sipping from a paper cup which I assume contains coffee, and Josh say something like "He doesn't look so good - sweaty and not so good. Do you think he has swollen glands?" and C.J. says something like"Omigod! I forgot! I didn't check the President's glands today." And Josh says "Ok. Perhaps your joke reflex is what is keeping you from keeping a man." and then, "seriously." and they discuss it for a bit, until the President collapses onto the floor (I don't remember whether he has a flu, which is what the doctor thinks, or whether this is an early season precursor of the M.S. thing).

Anyhow, I started thinking. And "aha", I realized that the reason I started watching them so regularly, even to the point of putting on the dvds late at night when the early morning reruns weren't on was not only the reason I allowed myself to think and told others during the campaign -that I was so worried about the possibility of things going wrong, I wanted to watch a Presidential election that felt similar (with Matt Santos and Arnie Vinick - which I discovered later, after recognizing something in Santos' speeches and checking on google, WAS similar, since apparently Jimmie Smits had talked to Barack Obama as he was preparing for the role, and, also, David Alexrod was a close friend of the writer who wrote the character. Hmmmm). Anyhow, I used these reruns to dream, and to pray to whatever is out there (or just cross fingers and toes) that reality would follow fiction, since (what with the Obama/Smits thing) reality had already followed fiction which had followed reality etc.l - particularly when I saw, during that last Florida campaign spot, the one with Bill Clinton, that Matt Santos - or rather Jimmie Smits dressed as Matt Santos - was there on the stage with them!)

So, anyhow, that was one reason. I wanted to sink into the wonderful dream world of a Jed Bartlet presidency (rather than George Bush) flowing into a Matt Santos presidency, so I could stop being a basket case about what I feared was the very real possibility of a John McCain/Sarah Palin administration. It makes a shiver run up and down my spine just thinking of it now!

Now, for the second reason - the one I just hit on. The one that makes sense, seeing that I am also listening to the audiobook of Merril's biography of Obama while racewalking, and reading "Team of Rivals" when eating (finally - since I love Doris Kearns Goodwin, ever since I read "No Ordinary Time" years ago, and had dinner with her just before she spoke at the NAWBO annual luncheon - and have had the book on my shelf since right after it came out). Therefore, my reading has exacerbated my dissatisfaction with the lack of meaning in the parts of my life outside of my family. I am spectacularly satisfied with my children, their choices in spouses, and the grandchildren. I am not so satisfied with the rest.

Perhaps that is part of the proclivity for sloth and procrastination sometimes. I cannot get energized about helping a wealthy person get richer, or acquire more real property, or acquire or dispose of a business, or win a fight with another wealthy businessman. Yes, I'm good at it, and will need to continue doing it , probably forever, since I have yet to develop the discipline, regularity, and perhaps talent (I don't know - perhaps I have that, and have not had sufficient levels of the other qualities to accomplish anything with it). In any case, simply, my writing is going nowhere, certainly not where I can make a living at it.

And I remember when my high school friend/college roomate was first elected to Congress, and I went to D.C. for the installation, and walked into her office, and saw her happiness and energy. She was thinking, clearly, that now she could really do something - and I was thinking the same. And there she is, rapidly becoming a leader in the party, and appearing on the Rachel Maddow show, and being considered for the Senate. And here am I worrying about whether a client for whom I have just converted a four unit building into condominiums will be able to close two units in time to fight off his foreclosing bank! Wow! What an awesome issue with which to be involved.

And there is C.J., with whom I relate. Sure, she knows so much more than me. (Rather, all of the characters on West Wing are capable of rapidly, machine gun style, spewing well structured verbiage with historical, economic, literary and biblical content. They are all so damned smart and educated! -Or at least, the writers have made them so). I know I'm as smart as them. Absolutely! But I don't know anywhere near as much.

So, as I read (listen to) the Obama biography, and "Team of Rivals" and for the first time, ever (starting with my need to be "talked down" during the last months of this electoral cycle) I'm watching CNN and MSNBC and even Fox, and reading the important sections of thenewspaper (or more often reading them online - New York Times, Washington Post,Huffington, Politico.com, TNR, The Economist, etc.).............................as I do all of this, I feel that maybe I COULD learn enough - or I could have. But it's probably too late. I'm old.

And I want to be C.J. or Josh or Sam or any of them, or my friend Jan. I want to work in the White House, or in Congress, or in a think tank, or to be a reporter, or an important writer. I want to make a mark in this world. I had a taste of looking out at a crowd and talking, and feeling good at it, when I was president of a major business organization ten years ago. I liked it.

I feel good about talking to people about important issues. I feel good when I can help someone, even a homeless guy for whom I purchased some new blue jeans last year, or friends I can put together to help each other in business, or when I helped a friend last week to revise her proposed contract so she could retain some business with a government agency.

I write well. I talk well. I have a huge reserve of energy and strength when I decide that whatever I'm doing is important enough, or urgent enough (more often than not, it is the latter not the former - I'm too often in the wrong "Seven Habits" quadrant).

So, C.J. reminds me of who I could have been had I not been lazy, or willing to follow the path of least resistance.

Unlike Barack, I had it too easy for too long, and never had to gain the qualities that he needed in his life (discipline and organization and a strong need to better the world). He and I both have a strong intellect as well as intellectual curiosity . But he also has an ability to get things done and a much stronger, life moving desire to help others (I have that, but not often enough) . Barack has a unique background - a deep inner turmoil with too many competing definitions of self needing to be resolved, the lack of a father, a mother who idealized his absent father and his black heritage until he discovered through the real world the half truths he had been told, the experience of being the only black face in a white private school with Asians as the only historic minority , the experience of being a small child living among abject poverty in Indonesia, etc. etc. My background has been easy and simple - too simple - a loving and protective set of parents who paid my bills and covered bounced checks in college and told me it was ok when I was too shy to go to summer camp and therefore I didn't go, and were always there for me even well into my forties; growing up in a 98% Jewish and white neighborhood where almost everyone was just like me, my only problem being that I was short and late to develop and maybe too smart so I felt I could not be a part of the "popular" crowd even though, in retrospect, I now know that I probably could have; an intelligence and ability to learn quickly that helped me to become salutatorian in my high school class and to do well (though not spectacularly) in a very good college, and a nationally revered law school, all without ever working very hard at all . I never had to push myself, so I didn't, and therefore I grew up being successful, but only to a point, with the realization that I could have been very successful and changed the world (I truly believe that) but never did, due to my very own inability to kick myself in the pants and do what I had to do to get there!

When I wanted to finish Ulysses and go to the 100th Bloomsday in Dublin - I did.

When I wanted to become a part time citizen of the world by travelling periodically to France, and writing articles for an online publication, I did it (and still do). My dearth of recent articles come from my lack of writing them, not from the publication's refusal to accept them.

And now, with my becoming truly interested in the daily workings of the world, and observing Barack Obama's fantastic success, and working so hard for his election and worrying so much about it - I am back to watching West Wing, and living in a dream world where I am an integral part of Jed Bartlet's administration.

I speak French, because I'm good with languages, but I am far from beingh fluent, because it came too easy, and it is enough for my trips to Paris.

I write decent short stories, because I'm good with words, and my friends, and now, even a professional writer likes them - but I haven't written one since 2006, and have only sporadically edited the old ones for possible publication.

I write pretty good travel articles, because, again, I'm good with words, and particularly good when I'm writing about something that excites me (and going to France and sometimes to places like San Francisco and New York excites me) and I attended a course this Spring where I found that I am probably as good as those who make a living at it, and came back with a plan on how to take steps to get published, a plan that I have not even started to follow.

I was once a pretty good runner, because it came easy despite my having done nothing athletic until then I started running in my mid thirties, I ran farther and faster, and became semi competitive in my age group in my early forties, and then stopped doing it as often, and now, for a number of years, not at all, because it was easier not to, and I've gained weight and feel fat and slothful and no longer fit as I once did.

When I wanted to learn Polish, I quickly learned enough to talk to the folks at a wedding in Poland, and then forgot it through non use.

When I wanted to learn Russian as a teen, I did, and have now forgotten most of it.

I've written pretty decent poetry, and expository articles, and travel articles, and short stories, and legal documents, and I've journalled, and I've succeeded acquiring what my clients needed in negotiating rooms with antagonistic and aggressive lawyers, and I've accomplished legal tasks in areas where I had to learn from scratch, and developed friendships with people from many different parts of society.

I am a deep and wide well of potential - of unused potential - and I'm bursting at the seams with regret.

I've done so much, and still do, but never enough. Not nearly enough. And it's all from my own lack of doing.

This is not a good blog, but I had to get it out. It's very poorly written. Some of that bad writing that the journalling experts tell us is good for us anyhow. I've been writing for an hour. I shouldn't publish it, but I will, and then I'll go get some coffee, and I'll perhaps make today a better one (I've told myself that so often - but here again I have that blank notebook that is a new day,and the sky I see through the window when I raise my eyes from my laptop starts out at the horizon with a thick grey cloud but with the gold of a morning sun breakng through since up near the top I can see the orb of the sun through some thin layers, and through an opening further down a bright blinding light escapes, but just barely. It is visible in front of a backdrop of cloud , and emits some rays that it aims downward towards the lake . The planetarium is in dark relief at the far end of its equally dark spit of land, but the lake around it is a smooth surface on which someone has painted several long, narrow streaks of shimmering light starkly apparent under the dark sky at the horizon and the dull blue grey of the rest of its quiet speckled surface.

It's 9:24 and time to start the day.